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Judgemental Christians stem from the Enemies Twisting of the Truth. Welcome to Untwisting the Truth. From the deception of Eve in the Garden to the Temptation of Christ in the dessert the enemy has lead believers off the path God has for them not by wild and crazy ideas but by ever so slightly twisting the truth. Today I want to talk about a scripture that has been twisted and twisted for a very long time. It’s likely you’ve heard it but today I want to untwist the truth and give you perhaps a different perspective of what might be going on.
Not too long ago I was browsing my Facebook feed when I came across a meme on a Christian Women’s site. This wasn’t the first time I had seen memes with the the quote. I’ve seen similar quotes on lots of friends posts and I would imagine that if you checked my newsfeed it may have been something I’ve even said before myself. The Meme said:
Conflict tip: What comes out of some else’s mouth is a reflection of their heart…not yours.
The idea for the meme comes from Matthew 15:18
But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them.
But here’s where it gets twisted. God is the only one who knows the heart of man. Jeremiah 17:10 says
I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.
Scripture is for personal conviction not for pointing fingers. We are not to judge others and clearly we are judging not only the actions of a person when we have this thought but also judging their heart which we have absolutely no authority or intellect for doing.
When it comes to judging James has this to say in 4:11-12
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
So let’s talk about what may be happening with the other person and what is happening when we turn the mirror of God’s word on our own hearts.
First lets take a look at the person the meme was referring to. Perhaps this person said some nasty things, blew up or lost it in a conversation. What could potentially be happening here?
3 Things that Can Cause a Person to Overreact
- Physical Issues – physical pain, illness, lack of sleep, hormones or even just hangry
- Emotional wounds – wounds from childhood from abuse, abandonment or other sould damaging experiences
Pausing to consider the other person, what might be going on for them doesn’t result in judgement but in forgiveness and compassion.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32
So what has the enemy accomplished in us when he twists the truth of Matthew 15:18 to judge the hearts of another person.
3 Things that are Going on in the Heart of the Person Judging
- Pride. Whenever we have an “us vs. them” mentality We are operating from a place of pride. We are better than them because they blew up but we remained calm. No perhaps we have practiced controlling our emotions or have a different personality type than them. Being better skilled at something isn’t a prescription for judging the heart. Skills make us different than someone not better than someone.
- Playing God. By taking on this role of judge we take on the role of playing God. One of the enemies ploys in twisting the truth is just that – to take peoples eyes of the one true God.
- Playing the victim – A key component of playing victim is placing the blame on other people. By judging the other persons blow up you are blaming them. I don’t know about you but in my 32+ years of marriage and just general interaction with humans I can tell you there are always two sides to every conflict. And playing the victim leads to the last item I want to point out.
- Whenever we are playing victim we are avoiding personality responsibility. What another person does is not our concern. Our God is Sovereign and the end of life we (as will they) account for what they have done. We will be responsible for whether or not we forgave, whether or not we apologized for our part of the situation and also whether or not we showed compassion and a desire to build unity in the body.
Which brings me to my last point and the reason I believe to be the ultimate goal of the enemy. Let me read you something from Brene Brown’s book “I thought it was just me” on the topic of compassion and empathy.
You see I believe the goal of the enemy is to ultimately separate us from each other and from God. First he separates us from God by our own sin of pride and then ultimately he separates God’s people from one another – disrupting God’s design of unity in the body.
What is your thoughts on judgemental Christians and how we can begin to look differently at ourselves, others and God’s Word? What ways to you see the Enemy twisting the truth?